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#1December 20th, 2008 · 10:43 PM
40 threads
165 posts
United States of America
dude
okay so i broke up with a guy, and he's so pathetic. He honestly offered me $200 to be friends with him.

am i wrong for thinking that he's a wack job or what?!
#2December 21st, 2008 · 01:47 AM
27 threads / 2 songs
179 posts
Canada
Well, first off...take the 200$

Then send him a letter saying any of the following:
a) you have died
b) moved to Peru
c) your top five is already full
d) offer to be pen pals
c) you are going on a 4 year exchange trip and the person being sent back is your Swedish dopelganger who is lesbian and therefore would totally ignore any advances from him, incuding mere eye contact.

Other than that, yeah he sounds odd.

PS. If you don't feel right keeping his money, I will be glad to help out

-Mark
Good Luck!
#3December 21st, 2008 · 03:58 AM
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Netherlands
LMAO first thing that came to my mind was what dusty said: take the $200!

Then.. just be honest. And tell him that true friends are honest to eachother. "I never want to see you again. It's best for you if you'd turn around, walk away, and move on. And grow a spine... I say this because I care about you, and it is in the very best interest for you. That's what friends are for... They support eachother... Right? And this is my way of supporting you the best that I can. Go get a life! Now, goodbye, friend, and farewell!"

Easy money

On a serious note, be awfully wary of that guy. It may be a phase he is in but offering money for friendship isn't a sign of a healthy social life. Please quickly apply this list to him and hope he scores very low. If he scores high, the only thing you can do is to not "feed" him. Ignore him, never call him, never make eye contact and if he forces contact, be very distant, cold, short and to the point in any communication. If he starts stalking you (even on the phone), don't hesitate to call the police. Let's hope none of this will happen.
#4December 21st, 2008 · 04:56 AM
340 threads / 59 songs
4,344 posts
United Kingdom
Sarah, I must agree, offering you $200 for 'friendship' is a sign of a small sad and unhealthy mind.
The obvious thing to do would be to take the money ! lol
But in reality turning away and protecting your self from his unstable state is the best thing to do, do a Marino on him and banish him from your existence.  No Joke!!

But look on the bright side...bloody hell! what excellent stuff for a (few) songs!!! This is inspiration in the making !

How would your poetic mind sum up this situation? When you try to put it in perspective what kind of images, thoughts and emotions does it conjure up?
And you can be more imaginative than just 'PUKE' !!!!!
#5December 21st, 2008 · 01:12 PM
40 threads
165 posts
United States of America
o dear!
I love you ppl!

okay it goes against all my moral up bringing to take the 200. however the dark side is telling me they have cookies and im hungry lol...

he does need help.... he really does.

police might be an option in the near future if this kind of thing happens again.

Kings: good inspiration has come from this unfortunate souls existence. songs will be wrote. guitars will be playing drums will be beating and above all my piano will hum over the dreadful sound of this pitiful man crying.

Dusty: I really want the money... I am looking at going "away" for a bit...Great idea bout the lesbian! will try! 

Puppetxeno: I have considered a restraining order. no joke. he is a creeper. i dont ever see him so i dont have to worry about that. THANK GOD

thanks for your feed back!!!!

love you guys!!!!!!!

-Sarah White
#6December 21st, 2008 · 03:19 PM
128 threads / 44 songs
2,814 posts
Puerto Rico
hmmm..
Wise man once said:" play with fire you'll get burned"...
Forget the $$$$$$...
Stay away away away away..this is no joke...
#7December 21st, 2008 · 04:26 PM
22 threads / 13 songs
513 posts
Japan
mmm
Sounds like DUDE =DUD
 
#8December 21st, 2008 · 10:13 PM
40 threads
165 posts
United States of America
seriously
i mean i really think that he needs a therapist. he needs a shrink.

DUDE= Dud...TRU Dat!
#9December 21st, 2008 · 10:27 PM
76 threads / 5 songs
529 posts
Cook Islands
Use the 200 bucks to help him get psychiatric help?


Or tell him to keep it and use one of the five steps Dusty mentioned. :]
#10December 22nd, 2008 · 12:43 AM
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2,296 posts
United States of America
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I'm just in a fog here...as always....were you going with this guy?...going out...dating him?....well, you did say you were broke up with him....so, I guess you were involved....How long were you going out with him?..and if hes really that disturbed that needs to buy friendship?.....you didn't have a clue as to what kind of a guy he was?...do you care anything at all about this guy anymore?....he seems like he needs help...and what PX said is true...friends help friends....even if they are not the best of friends...I really have a problem with what you are doing by coming in here and ridiculing this guy....not saying what hes doing is right...but your not right by doing this...I have learned one thing in life..what comes around  goes around  and we are not better then the next person..and we shouldnt act like we are.......be a good person and help this guy...dont broadcast it that hes a jerk..it makes you look small in my eyes......make it clear that you are not going to date him anymore....but stand up and be a decent human being...help this guy out....
#11December 22nd, 2008 · 02:03 AM
118 threads / 55 songs
3,086 posts
Netherlands
re: .
FLYER7747 wrote…
I'm just in a fog here...as always....were you going with this guy?...going out...dating him?....well, you did say you were broke up with him....so, I guess you were involved....How long were you going out with him?..and if hes really that disturbed that needs to buy friendship?.....you didn't have a clue as to what kind of a guy he was?...do you care anything at all about this guy anymore?....he seems like he needs help...and what PX said is true...friends help friends....even if they are not the best of friends...I really have a problem with what you are doing by coming in here and ridiculing this guy....not saying what hes doing is right...but your not right by doing this...I have learned one thing in life..what comes around  goes around  and we are not better then the next person..and we shouldnt act like we are.......be a good person and help this guy...dont broadcast it that hes a jerk..it makes you look small in my eyes......make it clear that you are not going to date him anymore....but stand up and be a decent human being...help this guy out....

On one hand, ofcourse, someone needs help. But psychopaths (or sociopaths) are a very real problem - and the help they require to learn to deal with their affliction cannot be given by their "friends" as 1) sociopaths typically don't have real friends, as 2) their view of what friends are, is part of their problem!!

The best help they can get is a professional psychiatrist and medication. Effectively, for the normal people, especially those who have been "involved" with the person in question: STAY AWAY!

I also found this which may be helpful. Ok so maybe the guy isn't a sociopath but I have a faint idea that he is (cmon.. offering money for friendship..). Anyway, this isn't ridiculing, this is serious. The point being, if you open up a door - with all good intention - a sociopath with come in through that door and starts doing his thing, disregarding any good intentions you had when you opened the door. Because, even if a sociopath can see your good intentions, he's going to completely ignore them, as he wants to achieve his goals... At all cost....

Anyway, there's too many things to be said about this. And maybe Sarahs "dude" is long not so bad after all. But better be cautious... What the lady from the interview said "1 in 25 ordinary Americans is a sociopath"- (the figures I learned is 1 in 20, with male : female ratio of 4:1). AT MOST help the guy to a therapist. Even that is taking quite a risk, he's gonna want to "thank you" afterwards.....
#12December 22nd, 2008 · 05:12 AM
188 threads / 27 songs
2,825 posts
Germany
Senseless or not?
To review "The Pit" and give a comment: I love the posts of female members here.

the male posts have so many words included. but do they make sense? quantity = quality?

What are looking for? Some people with good advices? Help for decisions?

My decision support: Buy Steinway or Bechstein, I am sure you won't be disappointed

 
#13December 22nd, 2008 · 09:33 AM
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United States of America
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It all sounds like a Fantasy to me anyways
#14December 22nd, 2008 · 01:14 PM
118 threads / 55 songs
3,086 posts
Netherlands
*disclaimer* I wrote those comments without knowing who the person in question was. But I do know now I might have written bits and pieces a little differently but well what's said is said and as general information, I stand by what I said.
#15December 22nd, 2008 · 01:21 PM
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United States of America
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So Do I.......
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